After all the external achievements I have accomplished in my life and which society sets as a measure of success, the most important thing for me is to love myself: to be able to feel love, peace, joy, serenity, freedom, abundance, inner strength and worthiness – whatever the circumstances.
These are all the feelings we have when we treat ourselves lovingly, accept ourselves unconditionally and see ourselves and the world from a broader, wiser perspective.
Self-love is the foundation on which all areas of our lives are built. It is the foundation for feeling wholehearted and joyful in life. But also creativity, inspiration, meaning and fulfilment.
How much good we are able to welcome into our lives depends on whether we love ourselves. When we love ourselves, we put ourselves first and take care of ourselves in a nurturing way. We allow the flow of abundance. We allow ourselves to be relaxed, easy and joyful.
Whether we love ourselves depends on whether we make the changes that life calls us to make. When we love ourselves, we change the behaviours that no longer serve us and the unwanted circumstances in which we find ourselves. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with kindness, compassion and love. We are no longer willing to stay in disrespectful relationships and situations that do not reflect our true worth.
Self-love can be recognised by the way we talk to ourselves.
Especially when we do something “wrong“.
Remember how you talk to yourself then. Do you criticise yourself for being incompetent? Do you condemn yourself for always messing up? Do you blame yourself for how you could have done such a thing? Do you compare yourself with those who seem to succeed in everything they touch?
Or do you give yourself a sympathetic hug and an encouraging talk that you are doing great, knowing that you are always doing the best you can at any given moment?
We practice self-love when we treat ourselves kindly, compassionately and lovingly. Especially when things don’t go as we expect. When life doesn’t go our way.
I lovingly invite you to choose kind, compassionate and loving words for yourself, especially in these situations. Use the words that your inner child would like to hear from loving parents:
“I love you so much. You are the most important person in the world to me. You make the world a better place. You are precious beyond measure.”
Say all this to yourself. Gently embrace yourself. Feel the love for yourself.
If you cannot (yet) feel the warm sensation of loving words, it is probably because you believe the voice inside you that rejects you. In this case, you can say to yourself, “I accept the voice that rejects me. I hear it, but I do not listen to it. I choose to believe that I am worthy of unconditional love, even if I don’t feel it at the moment.”
In this way you will take an important step towards changing negative beliefs about yourself. But also towards inner wholeness, as you will embrace your shadow side, which will eventually no longer have any power over you.
Observing and accepting your shadow side will almost certainly bring you emotional relief. It will help you to be more at peace and help you to cultivate self-love. Whoever truly loves himself embraces all parts of himself. Even the shadows.
I wish from the bottom of my heart that loving self-talk becomes your daily practice of nurturing self-love. In this way, you will be at peace with yourself even when life presents you with challenges. Because you will be a loving support to yourself throughout all of life’s experiences.
You are worthy of infinite unconditional Love.
Because in your deepest essence, you are Love.
It is time to stop denying your true nature.
It is time to (re)live fully Yourself.
